Monday, November 27, 2017

Reaching a Bar No One Else Sees

By Kris Freeman, Revolution Church

It was Christmas break of 1993, and I sat down on the ottoman at a family member's home. My dad and step-mother talked with family, my sister looked at the Christmas tree in the other room and my brother was giggling and wrestling in the floor.

And with those happy thoughts was a world crashing inside of my own heart. It wasn't long before the question came, and without thought I blurted out an answer and regretted it from the very second. My extended family asked how school was going, and here I was one semester into my first year.

I was an elite high school student. I was on a scholarship for "scholars" awarded to superior academic kids. I was in four honors classes and had 18 hours of credits and working a 50-hour a week job. Yet before my father could get his words out his mouth to brag on my achievements, I silenced the room with a knife through hot butter.

"I failed. I lost my scholarship. I just got my grades. I failed. It's over."

My dad's face turned to utter shock. The whole room went cold, dead silent. I cried, got up, left and then he followed me and I got the chewing of a lifetime in the back room that I will never forget.

At 18 years old, I listened to the wrong advice and abandoned my dream of being a journalist and declared my major as business administration. I chased my future as a CEO, because I thought that's what someone wanted me to be. I was the first person in my family to go to college and have the potential of graduating and becoming rich. All the signs were there. And with honors American history, honors English literature, business economics, statistics (not the sports kind, mind you but more like trigonometry on steroids), accounting and golf, I waltzed out of my first four months of college with a cumulative GPA of 1.6. I failed two classes. I made a D in another. I surrendered my scholarship.

I was one semester away from academic probation and I took out my first credit card to pay for my own tuition to stay in school so that my parents wouldn't find out. It took me 10 years of my young adult life to pay off that card. I had no financial aid, because collectively my divorced parents made too much money to apply for grants.

But you don't understand, with my scholarship, EVERY SINGLE THING was paid for. I had money for tuition, books, food, gas and even some to spend on a sweatshirt. And it was G-O-N-E-See ya.

I completed that freshman year with a 1.9 GPA. I had to retake five classes before I graduated a two-year degree in three years with a ridiculously low GPA by every academic standard. I switched my major to journalism and communications, where I had a 4.0. But ghosts of academic pasts don't go away, and since accounting, stats and economics weren't required courses in the second major, I left some Ds sitting on the table.

You know why I failed? Not because I am not intelligent. It may sound arrogant, but I don't mean it that way. I should NEVER make a failing grade or below average grade in a class. I am well-brained enough to pass with flying colors. That's why until Christmas of my senior year in high school, I never made below a B. In anything. And then, it happened. I dumped my dreams to pursue what someone else wanted for me and then I blew it. I blew it. Not them, me.

And the chasing of the ceiling began. It was a bar that no one else could see that has haunted me for the rest of my life.

Now, I met my wife there. I learned how to be a broadcaster. I coached some amazing baseball teams and I worked some incredible sporting events. I enjoyed my time in communications. It does not mean that I don't wish some things to be done again.

You see, I won the award for music in my high school. I had letters from Duke University, Western Kentucky, Middle Tennessee State and even dreamed of attending Vanderbilt. I took the ACT and made a 25, but I didn't even try. I had to go to the bathroom the last two hours of the test and just marked answers to get it done so I could, well....go. And with academic and music offers all around me, a small school dropped a scholarship offer in my lap. The minimum? A 3.8 GPA and a 25 ACT. I took it. I gave up music, I ditched my dream of broadcasting and journalism, and I walked into a small school so arrogantly believing that in two years, I would be the top student on campus. I'm telling you, I believed that.

And so, I loaded my schedule, didn't take breaks at work, and I quit trying. Why did I fail? Well, for one, I hated economics, accounting and statistics. I loved golf. Thank God for golf. It was my only A. I made a C in English Lit and I'm a writer! I attended class about 70 percent of the time. I spent more time at Taco Bell than the academic building. I partied late with friends and never told my parents where I was. I mistreated young ladies and ended every relationship because I was foolish and didn't take their affection serious. And looking back to that mid-semester in senior year of high school, I figured it out. That's when they locked in our grades and I was awarded the scholarship. You know what I did the final semester of high school? I goofed off. I made two Cs. I irritated my teachers. I worked my butt off at a fast food restaurant and played a lot of golf.

So if you've read this far, you're probably wondering why I wrote this now.

That's because tonight, I busted the bar.

I completed a pastoral ministries degree in 2001. It was a three year school, but no accreditation with normal institutions. So with a two-year degree in 1996, an unaccredited ministry diploma and unfinished business, I enrolled at Western Kentucky University in 2007. Taking two classes at a time, I was scheduled to graduate in 2010 but we moved home to plant a church and Noah was diagnosed with a hip disease and placed in a wheelchair. I quit school again, and this time I honestly believed my time had passed.

Last year, I was offered a chance to step away from my church and take a position in full-time athletics. As a result, there was a possibility I would be able to be paid for my work full-time, and then also have my academic work paid for by a stipend. I sat down with an advisor and realized how close I was to completing my Bachelor of Arts degree. Within four years, with the right precision and dedication, I could complete my Bachelors, Masters and Doctorate.

I declined the offer to go to work and remained with my church after prayer, believing it was the right decision. However, I was intrigued by the educational opportunities, so I pursued them and paid for the school out of my own pocket. People often ask why I work so many hours announcing, and this is part of the reason. My church salary does not afford me enough money to pay for my education, vacation or my taxes effectively, and raise a family. So I chose with the majority of my debt eliminated, to pay my own way.

I am five classes from finished with my Bachelors Degree. Because of schedule, I will not officially be done until late, 2018. I have to wait to take my final class next fall.

My GPA entering Trevecca Nazarene University was carried over from my two-year degree, and my class work at WKU. The cumulative GPA had always hovered under 3.0.

I currently have a 4.0 at Trevecca and plan to keep it that way. I had a 3.8 at WKU, with my only B coming in a very difficult honors Hebrew Old Testament class taught by an agnostic professor.

For the first time in my academic life post high school, tonight my GPA reached 3.019.

That was the bar. The "average" number that haunted me finally shattered tonight at the age of 42, 24 years to the month that I lost that scholarship.

Why was 3.0 the bar? Because 3.0 was the number I was required to maintain to have my school paid for. It has been like a nightmarish ghost floating in my mind for 24 years. A beacon of failure, incompletion and turmoil.

My lack of a degree is embarrassing. There are pastors with doctorates and academic profiles that would make Jesus look like a peasant who secretly make fun of pastors like me, who work their tails off to learn the Bible and don't have a Ph.D. at the end of my name. I would LOVE to be teaching, but I walk through the halls of our high school every day and know there are 24-year-olds fresh out of college coaching and teaching at WHHS and I can't dial it back and go where they are now.

I stare at the certificates and diplomas on my wall and realize there's an empty space. You see, I don't need a degree to be a servant, or a counselor of friends, or a hero to the broken. I don't need paper to validate my spiritual credentials, but I realize the immense pressure and power and respect it brings to obtain it. I know to ever teach, I need it. I have to complete. You couldn't stop me right now with a bulldozer if you tried because I am determined.

But the expectation I placed on myself to shatter that bar was nothing more than a figment of some false imaginary god I had lorded over my own failures.

And if you're still reading, God bless you, because you have one, too.

It could be a relationship you ended, a job you lost, a promise you broke or a situation you blew. And you're chasing this bar that no one else can see and determined that when you reach it, everything else will change.

I have news for you. I logged in tonight and received the A that put me over the bar, and no cameras flashed. No confetti popped. My family is asleep and I am sitting in front of a computer screen with Family Feud and Sportscenter competing for the tv screen in the background.

The only one who noticed the bar was busted was me.

And I'm the one who set it in the first place. So what could God do with your life if you erased these imaginary expectations and decided that no one could stop your dreams of the potential you have that God has placed within you? What if you learned to forgive (and figured out that YOURSELF is the first target)? What if you quit making excuses, quit putting yourself down and quit believing that you are validated by some paper tiger you framed in an four-dollar plastic 8x10 idol.

What if, for once, you went after it?

Don't let the bar be your standard, instead let your dream be bigger than the bar can hold.

John Maxwell says every person has a lid. Unlock it. Bash it. Hammer it. Throw away the key. Own it, live it, make it, dream it, serve it, achieve it.

And if anybody gets in your way, give them a little Will Rogers with a smile.

"You might be on the right track, but you're gonna get run over if you just sit there."

By gosh, ladies and gentlemen, start your engines. And Satan, with all due respect, get the heck out of our way.

That's an A-plus paper right there, so frame this sucker cause when you make it, I'll celebrate with you.

I love you, and these are my thoughts.

Pastor K

The Vow of Prayer (11.26.17 Notes)

“The Vow of Prayer”
#TheVow Week 4
Pastor Kris Freeman
Revolution Church
Sunday, November 26, 2017

Scripture: Genesis 3:7-10 (NLT)

Genesis 3:7-10 New Living Translation (NLT)
7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.
8 When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man[a] and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”
10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”

Remember, in this series, we are learning the vows to God and to our spouse.
  1. The Vow of Priority
  2. The Vow of Pursuit
  3. The Vow of Partnership
  4. The Vow of Purity/Prayer

  1. I promise that God will be my first priority and my spouse will be my second.
  2. I promise that I will always pursue my two.
  3. I promise our marriage will be about WE and not ME.
  4. I promise to CONFIDE in you and not HIDE from you.

For you were once in darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. (Ephesians 5:8)

You will never find healing in the DARK. Shame grows fastest in the dark, but the light brings life and healing.

How to find healing:

  1. Confess to the right PLACE
  2. Commit to the right PEOPLE
  3. Construct the right PATH

How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart, do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. (Psalm 119:9-11)

The path to intimacy is paved with PRAYER.

1. Replace your TEMPTATIONS with better COMMUNICATIONS.

Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. (Proverbs 28:13)

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. (1 John 1:9)

Prayer is the communication CHANNEL between you and God, but can also be the key to intimacy with you and your SPOUSE.

Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

2. Seek God - a PASSIONATE pleasing God! 

He is a God of SECOND CHANCES not a God of SHAME!

Jesus came, so that we are not under the law, but under grace. We have a responsibility not to sin, but we also have a restoration when we do!

The word buwsh (boosh) means to be ashamed, to be completely worthless.

But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were sinners. (Romans 5:8)

You are not worthless, but God is WORTHY! Let’s flip the script and remember the covenant!


Find the Bible reading plan for this series by searching “The Vow” on YouVersion!

Monday, November 20, 2017

The Vow of Partnership (11.19.17 Notes)

“The Vow of Partnership”
#TheVow Week 3
Pastor Kris and Jen Freeman
Revolution Church
Sunday, November 19, 2017

Scripture: Psalm 133:1-3 (NLT)

Psalm 133 - A psalm of David. 1 
How wonderful and pleasant it is when brothers live together in harmony! 2 
For harmony is as precious as the anointing oil that was poured over Aaron’s head, that ran down his beard and onto the border of his robe. 3 Harmony is as refreshing as the dew from Mount Hermon that falls on the mountains of Zion. And there the Lord has pronounced his blessing, even life everlasting. 

Remember, in this series, we are learning the vows to God and to our spouse.
  1. The Vow of Priority
  2. The Vow of Pursuit
  3. The Vow of Partnership

  1. I promise that God will be my first priority and my spouse will be my second.
  2. I promise that I will always pursue my two.
  3. I promise our marriage will be about WE and not ME.

Echad (ekh-awd) - united, completely joined as one (Matthew 19:4-6)

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one SEPARATE.

Marriage is a COVENANT not just. CONTRACT.

1. A contract is based on mutual DISTRUST

Wait - shouldn’t that be trust? No! The reason we have contracts is because a HANDSHAKE agreement in life is no longer trustworthy enough. People make contracts to make sure they don’t get VIOLATED.

A contract is:
    • A protection from being done wrong
    • Only as good as far as you’re “in” on the terms

2. A covenant is based on mutual AGREEMENT

A mutual commitment is not a contractural partnership - a contract is a percentage. Covenant is not a percentage. It’s not 50-50. It’s 100% from both sides!

Marriage is not dividing everything in HALF, it’s giving ALL you have.

I have good news! People make marriage mistakes, but marital mistakes are not the unpardonable sin! You don’t have to divide, you can work on this TOGETHER!

3. Covenant partnership is summarized with Godly LEADERSHIP and mutual SUBMISSION

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Eph. 5:21)

In a relationship, it’s very common for one person who is naturally dominant and one is naturally passive. Can this relationship work TOGETHER? What if the relationship is based on two people with mutual personalities?

If we have two visions, we have DIVISION in our marriage!

  • Your marriage will be as good as you both decide it will be!
  • Your marriage is not measured by your feelings, it’s measured by your commitment!

How many other areas of life are you allowed to make the excuse that you don’t feel like it?
    • I’m not going to feed my kids, I don’t feel like it
    • I’m not going to work, I don’t feel like it
    • I’m not going to pay my taxes, I don’t feel like it
    • I’m not going to exercise, I don’t feel like it
    • I’m not going to clean my house, I don’t feel like it
If you don’t feel like working on your marriage, you will actually DESTROY it.

Your marriage isn’t based on feeling, it should be based on commitment. Feelings follow commitment.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Eph 5:22-24)


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Monday, November 13, 2017

The Vow of Pursuit (11.12.17 notes)

“The Vow of Pursuit”
#TheVow Week 2
Pastor Kris Freeman
Revolution Church
Sunday, November 12, 2017

Scripture: Psalm 63:1-11 (NLT)

O God, you are my God; I earnestly search for you. My soul thirsts for you; my whole body longs for you in this parched and weary land where there is no water. 2 I have seen you in your sanctuary and gazed upon your power and glory. 3 Your unfailing love is better than life itself; how I praise you! 4 I will praise you as long as I live, lifting up my hands to you in prayer. 5 You satisfy me more than the richest feast. I will praise you with songs of joy. 6 I lie awake thinking of you, meditating on you through the night. 7 Because you are my helper, I sing for joy in the shadow of your wings. 8 I cling to you; your strong right hand holds me securely. 9 But those plotting to destroy me will come to ruin. They will go down into the depths of the earth. 10 They will die by the sword and become the food of jackals. 11 But the king will rejoice in God. All who swear to tell the truth will praise him, while liars will be silenced.

By nature, whether good or bad, we pursue what we DON’T have.

  1. We can pursue a relationship
  2. We can pursue a goal (exercise, weight loss, achievement)
  3. We can pursue a career
  4. We can pursue a dream
  5. We can pursue God
  6. We can pursue sin

Remember, in this series, we are learning the vows to God and to our spouse.
  1. The Vow of Priority
  2. The Vow of Pursuit

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is UNITED to his wife, and they become one. (Genesis 2:24)

United - the root word is dab (daw-bak) - means to cling or adhere, to catch (pursue) with affection and devotion.

Psalm 63:8 - I will cling to you; your strong right hand holds me securely. 

I promise to always pursue my TWO.

Remember, when God is our one, and our spouse is our two, then EVERYONE gets blessed.

Pursuit is the definition of closing the gap between INTENTIONS and ACTIONS.

1. When you think of something good to say, SAY it.

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. (Hebrews 3:13)

Pursue God, and your spouse, with words of:
  • Affection
  • Affirmation
  • Action
  • Application

By research, ladies most often want to know “do you love me?” And guys want to know “do you believe in me?”

2. When you think of something special, DO it.

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. (James 4:17)

3. When you want something different, BE it.

Don’t gripe about what your spouse is not - be what you SHOULD be.

To get what you have never had, you must do what you have never done.

But to get what you ONCE had, you must do what you ONCE did again!

Remember the height from which you have fallen. Repent, and do the things you did at first. (Revelation 2:5).


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Thursday, November 9, 2017

The Gospel of Luke (An Analytical Review)

This is an analytical review of the Gospel of Luke, for a class at Trevecca Nazarene University. I hope you enjoy. Thanks for reading!

Pastor Kris


Of the four Gospel accounts in the New Testament, none gives the unique account and personal detail of the Gospel of Luke, and this is an ironic twist, considering its authorship is tabbed to a man who became a follower of Jesus, but never met him. The specifics of the stories give an intimate continuity of Old Testament prophecy to New Testament fulfillment, as Luke continued the work with the writing of the Acts of the Apostles and the work of The Holy Spirit following the resurrection and ascension of Jesus.

The authorship and time of writing must be deduced, as the author does not identify himself or the date in the passages. Luke, as mentioned in Acts 16, 20, 21 and 27, was a contemporary of the Apostle Paul. Since the latest date recorded in Acts is 62 A.D. at the first imprisonment of Paul, this is a close estimate of the time of Luke’s writing of his gospel and the secondary work. Luke is mentioned in Paul’s letter to the Colossians (4:14), and by the third century A.D. was traditionally associated as the author of the gospel.

Early Christian writings, from the works of Justin Martyr to Tertullian, identify the author as Luke, an identification that was firmly in place by the third century. Luke was an educated man by ancient standards, capable of writing in high Greek style…that is, not Jewish. If so, Luke would be the only Gentile author of a New Testament book (Rademacher, Allen and House, 2007, p. 1587).

The setting is clear. Luke’s gospel gives one of two Biblical narratives of the birth of Jesus, joining Matthew. It is one of two Gospels written by a non-disciple, as Matthew and John were penned by members of The Twelve, and Mark and Luke authored by friends of Paul. Though Luke gives a detailed account of the journey of Jesus from Galilee to Jerusalem in Luke 9:51-19:48, he would have learned these events from eyewitness accounts and inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Luke speaks of the fall of Jerusalem in 19:41-44 and 21:20-44, therefore giving clues that this event had taken place by the time of his writing, which would date its authorship to post-70 A.D.

The Gospel of Luke has a two-fold purpose: first, it signifies the continual work of the promised Messiah (Jesus) of the Old Testament to the spread of the good news of Jesus to the Gentiles in Acts. “Luke provides the community continuity with Israel of old, identifying with Christ’s purpose, and validation with God’s people…but also the guarantee of the coming realization of salvation in all its fullness to the people” (Harrelson, 2003, p. 1848-49). In The Mighty Acts of God, Rhodes and March call the Gospel of Luke “the Gospel of the Savior of All Sorts of People” (2000, p. 235).

The second purpose of Luke was a letter to a young Gentile named Theophilus, “that you may know the certainty of those things in which you were instructed” (Luke 1:4, NKJV). He is reassuring this young believer of the purpose of spreading the good news to future unbelievers, and declaring Jesus as the promised one to all people, not just the Jews. “Theophilus and the Gentiles needed a more complete understanding of the things which they had been instructed concerning Jesus and the church” (Rhodes and March, 2000, p. 235).

Luke gives three specific directives to the work and person of Jesus, as the promised Messiah (1:31-35), a servant of God’s people (4:16-18) and the authority sitting at the right hand of the Father God on His throne (22:69 and Acts 2:20-36). Through Luke’s detail, we see a very personal Savior, not exalted in earthly royalty above the people, but in perfect community with the people. Luke, a physician as noted in Colossians 4:14, is likely to identify strongly with the personal connection to broken, hurting and the oppressed who need “good news.” Without authority, however, this good news is only a witness of words, but Luke testifies to the eyewitness accounts as the fulfillment of Jesus’ purpose. “Jesus humanity and compassion are repeatedly stressed by the author” (Rademacher, Allen and House, 2007, p. 1589).

The most unique aspect of the gospel is not its harmony to the synoptic Gospels (Matthew, Mark and Luke), but the unveiling of stories which can only be found in this narrative: “though the Gospel of Luke is one of the Synoptics, it is still very distinctive. Almost half its contents are not found in the other Gospels.” According to The Harmony of the Gospels as published in the New King James Study Bible, there are at least 31 accounts of scriptures or stories which are native to Luke’s gospel alone, for example the visit of a 12-year-old Jesus to the temple where his parents found him teaching in Luke 2:41-50 (2007, p. 1481). How a writer who never met Jesus personally gives such vivid and intimate detail of the life of Jesus is a credit to both his intelligence and relational ability as an author, and a direct commentary of his devotion to God through a relationship with the Holy Spirit. 

Luke is my personal favorite gospel, and personal favorite book. His writings make me dig deeper into the historical veracity of the account of Jesus, to verify both his stories and find facts that only the physician himself seemed to cultivate from the story. As a man who likely was converted to a Christ-follower, Luke gives the modern pastor and evangelist a gospel of truth and practicality to the person who has never known the life-transforming power of the good news. While Matthew gets deep into genealogy, and John explores the divinity of Jesus, and Mark navigates the servant, immediate work of Christ to the people, it is Luke’s writing that like a good novel, captures the reader to beg for more. With the Book of Acts, he delivers, and seals this promise, with the power of the Holy Spirit. It’s not a fairy tale, but it’s the fulfillment of an authentic promise many years in the making.


Harrelson, W. J. (2003). The New Interpreters Study Bible: New Revised Standard Version with the Apocrypha. Nashville, TN: Abingdon Press.

Rademacher, E., Allen, R.B. and House, H.W. (2007). The New King James Version Study Bible, Second Edition. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishing, Inc.

Rhodes, A. B., & March, E. (2000). (Revised ed.). Louisville, KY: Geneva Press.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Dealing with the Inner Shadow and the Darkness and Light of Leadership...

The following is a writing for a class on interpersonal communication, and my evaluation of the writing of Carl Rogers and Parker J. Palmer. If you're dealing with the struggle between who you are on the outside and who you are on the inside, there some good stuff here.

I think it is, anyway. And thanks for reading.


Kristopher Freeman
Trevecca Nazarene University
Carl Rogers - A Counselor's Approach
A psychotherapist and communication specialist, Rogers seems to write with a goal of understanding the total self (the being), and the four book titles indicate as much. Each title points toward the "becoming" or "being" of our complete self. Three values are presented as important to Rogers - total hearing, congruence, and unconditional positive regard. The first focuses on hearing and listening completely, which through this class has certainly been a goal of mine to improve interpersonal communication skills. The second is a greater sense of self-awareness which becomes "congruent" and therefore spills into our communication.
But it is the third value which is the most intriguing for me, as Rogers formulates the model of self-acceptance. Learning to accept who we are and communicate in a way which we can trust others and accept ourselves is the key to building a positive self-image and improving our esteem.
As I read deeper into this theory, I wondered if Rogers has the greatest understanding of depression and personality imbalance that I have ever read. His approaches are not medical, but rather psycho-sensitive and look deeper into the person. As a leader, this was (and will be more) further explored by Palmer in learning to see the inner shadow. It appears Rogers knew the inner shadow, too.
"I feel warmed and fulfilled when I can let in the fact, or permit myself to feel, that someone cares for, accepts, admires or prizes me. Because of elements in my past history, I suppose, it has been very difficult for me to do this. For a long time, I tended to brush aside any feelings aimed at me in any direction" (p. 663).
Depression is rooted in hopelessness, a lack of care, and a total belief of depravity that others could care about you or that it will ever change. While this medically has been proven to be a chemical imbalance, it can also be affected by our circumstances and our past. My desire for affirmation is rooted in my own father's lack of pride and acceptance of me. Therefore, when I battle depressive feelings, I know this is authentically a desire to be accepted.
So when I communicate, I often am seeking what Rogers understood. To be accepted changes everything about how I communicate, and then causes me to have a greater acceptance of myself and how I can listen to, project and communicate with others.
Parker J. Palmer - A Spiritual Approach
If the pedigree of Parker J. Palmer is based as an author, writer and teacher, then there is no doubt many would consider him a leader, but that he has interacted with many leaders at the same time. It sounds like a business approach, but is indeed a spiritual one.
As a Christian, my spirituality is tied to evangelical belief in God. However spirituality is a word that can describe many processes where leaders discover themselves within the shadow of a higher power or belief. A leader is being led, therefore what is passed on was once received. This spiritual approach takes what is within and projects it forward, thus coming "into the light."
The breakdown is when a leader refuses to deal with the spiritual self and simply leads from an external gift set which can hide the problems within. Eventually, those elements arise and if not addressed, the shadow is not a spiritual reflection, but can cast darkness. Leadership can go from good to bad, but unfortunately that is still leadership even with a negative outcome.
I love the heading Out of the Shadow and Into the Light, as Palmer navigates the process of moving our tendency to lead out of extroversion into a deeper look into our own being. I think much of the work of Palmer and Rogers interject and overlap, though it's said in different manner.
Palmer evaluates - and lauds - a speech of former president of Czechoslovakia, Vaclav Havel. 
"Consciousness precedes being, and not the other way around, as the Marxists claim. For this reason, the salvation of this human world lies nowhere else than in the human heart, and in the human power to reflect" (Havel, p. 669).
When we understand what is within us deeply changes what is around us, we are not afraid to deal with the inner shadow. We explore the depths of our hardest places - the violent, the fearful, the broken - for the sake of seeing them shape us into a better spiritual being. This gives hope to others around us, trust that we communicate our struggles not just in a way to be accepted, but a form of leadership to be followed.
"The problem is that people rise to leadership in our society by a tendency toward extroversion, which too often means ignoring what is going on inside themselves" (p. 671).
I have to understand what God is doing inside me, with the worst of my habits and depth of my struggles, so that I may use that foundation to influence others. Going back to Rogers writing, this not only helps me learn to be accepted by others for who I am, but rather it shapes who I am to be used for a greater purpose.
If one life influencing another is truly leadership, then Palmer understood we have to know ourselves first and use the good and the bad for what God can make the very best.